It’s a lament I hear from so many of my contemporaries and younger that cannot find a date.
You really want to know? For one, why are you asking me? I’ve been out of the dating scene for over 15 years. My insight comes from watching you people fumble through it. But since you asked, I suppose I’ll give it a shot. If you don’t really care what I have to say about the matter, I’ll have something more to your liking up later. Feel free to go look at cat pictures while you wait.
Still here? Well here goes then.
If they are still single and smart, they are hanging out with older women because they are more fun. The whole entitled feminist shtick has driven them away.
Sorry sweetheart, you don’t get to have it all. You really think he’s going to keep buying all those drinks and dinners while you prattle on about the inherent misogyny of society? Or the patriarchy? That’s a great way to score yourself your very own beta male.
Congratulations. If you’re lucky, he might lick enough boots to make middle management one day.
That alpha male you’re pining for is probably tired of playing the game. Blame the rabid feminists and empty-headed sociology majors. The womyns studies professor lied to you. Want to impress him with how ‘independent’ and ’empowered’ you are? Buy him a drink. And then have a real conversation. If you are interesting and engaging, there’s a good chance he’ll get the next one. Treat him with respect and you might just get a second date. Be a lady, and treat him like a man. Be flattered, not insulted, when he wants to get the door for you and walk you to your car*.
Or maybe you really don’t need a man in your life. That’s completely valid. Just stop telling me how much you don’t need one while complaining that you can’t find a decent one. I know, you’re tired of playing the game too. All I can say is that they are still out there, if you want to find them**.
*They are the minority, but there are creeps and predators out there. There is a difference between being polite and being stupid. Don’t put yourself in a bad situation either.
**Goes both ways. Guys, there are high quality women out there too. They’ve gotten just as tired of the games people play.