Well There Goes the Neighborhood

All that sanctity in Oklahoma marriages just flew out the window. Next thing you know, we’ll have a governor that cheats on and then divorces her husband so she can marry her bodyguard.

Oh right. Her marriages were all fine and good in the great state of Oklahoma long before this ruling. You know, because adultery doesn’t tear at the very fabric of marriage or anything. Nobody ever gets hurt or betrayed with that one. (Where is that damn sarcasm font?)

Look, if the sanctity of your marriage depends on who else can get married, you were already on pretty thin ice. My vows to my husband mean just as much today as they meant last week. We’ve even been able to keep them which makes us unique in this state!

The state government can’t make your vows mean something for you. That’s up to you and your partner, and sanctity is God’s business.


10 thoughts on “Well There Goes the Neighborhood”

  1. Act as if your marriage (you *are* married, aren’t you?) counted in your life, and in the service of your community and faith. Not because marrying is a value to committed adults (it is), but because it forges a home within a community — a place where the culture of the home and the community nurtures the children raised there.

    In the mean time, let those with different solutions to life’s opportunities and challenges, proceed.
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  2. Why would anyone want Govt to regulate and tax a religious ceremony anyway? Want marriage equality? Get the Govt out of the business of weddings totally. It’s between you, God, your church, and your family.
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    1. That one is easy.

      Marriage isn’t about what two people do. Marriage redefines the identity of the adults involved, creating a new family unit, and not incidentally, encompassing that new family into a community.

      Church weddings or other religious rites involve a religious community. They also include the secular community, as other marriages also do.

      In a real sense, the important function of a marriage ceremony is not “do you take . . “, but :”Can anyone show cause why these people should not be wed?” Harkening back to days before widespread literacy and organized records keeping, this holdover from oral traditions of common law actually embrace welcoming the newly-united into the community.

      Communities, even today, open different opportunities, and express different expectations, to married men and women than are open to singles. In spite of divorces, widow-hood, orphans, foster care, adoptions, adultery, and promiscuity, it is still the family, raising accultured children (regardless of the number of immediate and extended adults of whatever genders involved) that is the strength and future of a secular or religious community.

      Then, too, the government has redefined life as a matter of access to insurance and government “benefits”. And marriage has been co-opted by the IRS, employers, insurance companies, etc., to limit and define benefits. Singling out minorities to denigrate has long been a strategy that wins votes for politicians, while weakening and injuring the world around us.
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  3. I was waiting for your response to the news in Oklahoma, Jen. I wasn’t disappointed.

    We are slowly moving toward more equality. And it doesn’t hurt those of us who have been enjoying our rights all along.

  4. I’m amazed at the number of people in Ada that just can’t seem to grasp that letting others have the same rights as you in no way reduces your rights. It’s like a child fighting to keep another kid away from an infinitely large cake because he’s afraid it will make his piece smaller.

    The other thing I see a ton of is people who care about what other adults do behind closed doors. You would think “the gay” was an infectious disease by the way some people react to openly homosexual people.

    It doesn’t affect my wife and I’s marriage one bit if two people with the same bits get married. Same goes for the bedroom.

    Bookmarked your blog.

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